What is manipulation?
Manipulation is a kind of psychological tactic, a strategy through which the manipulator gets what he wants.
No one is safe from this type of psychological pressure, and you can encounter it in all kinds of relationships - a family member, co-worker, friend, partner may try to manipulate you.
The main thing is to know what you are dealing with.
Trying to make you feel guilty
The manipulator tries to make you feel guilty for your actions or decisions.
For example, he tells you that he is the only one who works and that you are together with friends, so he deserves something valuable as a reward. Do you know a similar phrase? - "If you can't come because of work, then I won't invite anyone."
Lie
A favorite feature of manipulative people is to tell lies - they manage to control you with lies and avoid their duties perfectly.
Flattering
They do this job so well that sometimes even a professional has a hard time distinguishing whether what he says is a compliment or a pleasant word motivated by the desire to get what he wants. Do you know someone who always praises the manager and emphasizes his influence or knowledge?
Projection
Another favorite activity of manipulators is to blame their feelings, opinions or moods on another person. For example, in this tactic, the person artificially creates tension and drama, and then you blame them.
Makes you fight for his satisfaction
It may seem strange to you, but some people really manage to do it! Yes, to deserve praise from him, a person does his best. The irony in this situation is that there is nothing you can do to win the manipulator's heart - you may feel guilty for not living up to his expectations.
Love bombing
At this time, a person shows excessive attention, tries to win your heart with gifts, compliments, invites you to romantic places. And after some time, he doesn't contact you anymore - it confuses you so much, you systematically check whether he has left you a message and now you start chasing him, earning his attention.
Source:
https://psychcentral.com/lib/tactics-manipulators-use-to-win-and-confuse-you#why-it-happens
