Depression is a mental disorder.
Psychological disorder affects the patient's feelings, behavior, therefore, is manifested by both mental and physical symptoms.
Violation significantly reduces the quality of human life; Depression makes a patient lose the meaning of life.
The condition is not just a bad mood and needs proper treatment. It is necessary for a person to consult a psychologist, because with the involvement of a specialist, psychotherapy and management of appropriate medications alleviate the symptoms, improve the patien's quality of life, significantly reduce the risk of any possible complications.
Both genetic and environmental, biological or psychological factors are involved in the
formation of depression.
According to psychologists, depression is the most common diagnosis among mental disorders.
A practically healthy person may not even realize how bad a depressed person can feel.
Do not be surprised if some of them get irritated by the extra attention or even the encouraging words; What to say or not to say to a depressed family member, friend or loved one, how can we cheer them up, get them out of the situation?
First of all, you should keep in mind that your loved one is not in a bad mood due to the change of weather, nor, for example, can he be cured by changing his hairstyle - he fights a severe mental disorder, and standing by his side during the treatment is really appreciated.
The best thing you can do for a person with depression is to listen, without any judgment, to wonder what he is feeling, what he is thinking.
There are certain phrases that you can say with good intentions, however these words make a person feel much worse.
Do not say the following:
- Get out of the situation
- Try harder
- Do not worry, do not break your heart
- Have fun, smile
- But you do not look like a depressed person
- You do not look sad
- Could have been worse
- It's all in your mind
- You are the guilty yourself
- You think it is your imagination
- Think only of yourself, others have problems;
- Don't think about it
- Think positive
- I know what you feel
- Count your blessings
- It could be worse
- Happiness is a choice
- Get over it
What can we say to encourage them?
There is no single perfect, magical, and universal answer to this question.
Usually, the doctor gives advice and recommendations on this topic to family members and relatives. Being in the company of loved ones in the healing process is a great relief for a person who is depressed. Follow the doctor's instructions when communicating with the patient.
However, it might be helpful to express your kindness and sincere desire for help with the following words:
- How can I help you during this period?
- I am sorry for your pain, sorrow. I am here, I am with you;
- Tell me more about it;
- Do you want to walk with me;
- If I can stay with you, I will spend time with you;
- May I bring you lunch;
- Thank you for sharing your feelings, feelings, because now I can better understand what path you are on;
- I love you;
- Do not do things that make you uncomfortable;
- Everything will be fine;
- I do not think you are crazy;
- You are good person;
- It is not your fault;
- You are not a burden to others and so on.
Source:
https://www.psycom.net/depression.central.6.things.never.say.html
https://www.verywellmind.com/worst-things-to-say-to-someone-who-is-
depressed-1066982
https://www.headstogether.org.uk/10-things-to-say-to-someone-with-depression/
